Picking up my daughter from a party last week, she wasn't in any way pleased to see me. I was expecting some sort of response as if to say, ‘it’s good to see you again’.
Kids don’t like leaving parties, but just so you can understand me, she wasn't engaged in partying - she was watching Pinocchio on TV by herself. It was as if I wasn't there.
It’s the same when I collect her from school. Wouldn't it be nice if they were actually pleased to see you? Other kids are, aren't they?
But that’s the craziness of this: it’s probably the case that other kids are the same and my case is no worse than others’. So maybe I'm negatively comparing myself to others. But somehow it feels like it should be better.
Connection is the key I reckon.
I've read some of ‘How to Really Love Your Child’ by Ross Campbell' (another point for me perhaps, because I may be bad but at least I give a crap)! At the outset he gives 3 principles:
- Physical contact
- Eye contact
- Focused time
Give those a go and tell me if it made a difference.
Next time I will take a look into (3) - focused time.